MOTIVATIONAL MONDAY: Does Being Single Means You Are Lonely?

Hello everyone. Welcome back to Motivational Monday series after quite a long break. Finally, I have time for this series. Thank you so much to those who still waiting for my new entries. Today, the title for this series is "Does being single means you are lonely?"

There is some reason why I chose this topic. This is because people keep assuming that those who are single usually lonely. They eat alone, spend their time with friends and family or just stay at home. I am one of the persons who have to deal with all the assumptions and people keep asking when I am going to have a partner.

I have my own reason why I am still single (you can read at here) and I believe that others also have their own reason. Although I am single, but I am not lonely. Definitely no. Actually, single people enjoy their life too. Most of the time, we just need to think about ourselves, our family and friends. We do not have extra commitment to other people due to the special relationship.

Besides, we have more freedom. We analyse the choices in life and make decision on our own without the need to inform our partner and discuss with him/her. It eases the process because less people trying to influence our decision or share their opinion on what we should do.

Some people think that going out alone or eating at restaurant alone is a sign of loneliness. However, do you realise that it is an opportunity to relax and do whatever we want. We can watch any movie we like and eat whatever we want. We do not need to consider what other people like. For example, if you like to eat seafood but your partner allergic to seafood, so you have to find a restaurant that do not sell seafood only. We also do not need to think about others' financial capability in deciding the place to go.

Apart from that, being single allows us to spend time with different people. We do not have to worry that someone will feel jealous when we go out or working with those of opposite gender. At the same, our circle is not restricted to specific person only. So, we are not lonely. We have a lot of choices but sometimes we choose to just stay at home and rest.

Single people might be too busy until we don't have time to feel lonely. This is because single people is usually targeted by others if they have problem to share or extra works need to be done. Do you ever meet someone who is single but always give advice to others on any topic including relationship? If yes, do you know why? The reason for this is because single people will have time to listen to your problem and give advice. We are free to talk with you as we do not have someone who is going to chat us the whole day. We are busy to solve others' problems. So, how can some people say that single means lonely? In addition, some people think that single people do not have much commitment and can work overtime (they make took advantage and pass the works to those who are single).

No matter whether you are single or in a relationship, please respect each other. Do not judge people on their choices in life. Just pray the best for them and hopefully they also do the same to you. We will feel better with our life once we stop judging others and start to improve ourselves to become a better person.

In conclusion, don't be sad of being single because single does not mean that you are lonely. Do enjoy your single life and 'me time' because once you leave that single life, you will miss your 'me time'. Be in a relationship requires a lot of commitments and sacrifices and you have to do it for the rest of your life (everyones want their relationship to last forever). Therefore, prepare yourself first before you enter into that phase.

That's all for today. See you in the next entry. Hopefully I can consistently write entries on Motivational Monday series.

Comments

  1. Does being single mean I'm lonely? Neverrrr. I'm almost always busy and my mind is never idle 😎

    And those 'sakit otak' non-single people who like to take advantage and pass extra workload onto those who are single, haa gaji mereka tu tak akan berkat ya....harap jenis manusia yang macam mereka tu cepat-cepat la sedar. Nak gaji berkat? Jangan menyusahkan orang single dan fikir mereka ada banyak sangat masa terluang sebab single. Nonsense la. Never take advantage on others' kindness. Nak gaji rasa mencukupi dan tak tiris? Buat saja kerja tu betul-betul dan jangan lambakkan workload sendiri atas bahu orang single, baru la gaji hangpa tu rasa mencukupi untuk tanggung satu keluarga. Anak-anak hangpa tu kan rezeki hangpa juga? So jangan persoalkan gaji orang single tu pergi ke mana. Kalau jealous tengok orang single, jangan gatai gedik nak kahwin. Simple.

    Orang single biasanya guna gaji mereka untuk bayar hutang belajar, hutang kereta, sewa rumah, bagi duit kat parents dan adik-beradik yang masih bersekolah, bayar bills dan lain-lain lagi. Ehh sorry JR naa....cheq teremosi pula komen topik ni, biasalah....pengalaman mengajar erti kehidupan 😬

    Good conclusion and advice. Cheq bagi 5 bintang πŸ˜ŽπŸ‘πŸ»

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you,CS. Panjangnya komenπŸ˜‚. Sangat setuju dengan CS. Jangan anggap orang single ni free je. Kita pun ada tanggungjawab lain jugak.

      Delete
  2. double is better than single hehehe...believe to me

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. If we meet the right person at the right time, I believe that we will feel that double is better than single😁.

      Delete
  3. Kak SHa sangat menghargai waktu single.. Melakukan banyak perkara yang tak akan boleh dilakukan bila dah berkahwin dan ada anak.. Menghargai dan menikmati kehidupan single dengan sepenuhnya..

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Betul tu, Kak Sha. Appreciate our single life first.

      Delete
  4. tak sad pun being alone actually. most of the time, besttt! tapi biasalah lumrah manusia, lumrah wanita.. sometimes 'berangan' nak ada yang halal, ada family sendiri gitchuww hahaha. lagi lagi umur dah 26*uhuk* tahun ni hehehe.

    apa-apa pun, jodoh semua Allah dah tetapkan. just believe in Him. and wait patientlyy.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Sangat setuju. Kena yakin yang jodoh akan sampai apabila tiba waktunya.

      Delete
  5. Single means u still have it freedom and can focus more on your parents

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment